Apr 26, 2022
It’s like a flashlight is shined on your marriage when you’re on the fertility journey. Emotions are heightened. You’re trying to get on the same page as to the “right next steps.” Maybe one of you is doing more than the other. And resentment can easily build. You have 2 options at this point: 1. Be in the energy of: “I just need to get pregnant so this can all be over.” Which really adds more pressure to you and your marriage to hurry up and make it fucking happen or everything is going to get worse. (Not a true thought BTW) OR 2. The energy of: “This experience is showing me the areas in my marriage that need love and attention. This is an opportunity to increase connection and intimacy in my partnership AND increase my mind-body health while I’m at it.” But HOW right? Cause remember, emotions are up there! Lucky for you, I interviewed Marriage Coach, Maggie Reyes, in this week’s Fertile Ground podcast! She is so wildly intelligent through her years of experience coaching women through all the ups and downs of marriage and really instills you with a feeling of empowerment EVEN IF you’re feeling lonely, disconnected and resentful towards your partner. You’re gonna learn: Why your partner does not need to change in order for your marriage to improve. What the difference between a request and a demand is – and why it’ll make all the difference in the world. Why protecting your partner from the pain of the fertility journey is unproductive. How to re-negotiate agreements within your partnership so that you don’t have to hold 100% of the responsibility on the fertility journey. Maggie says, “Breakdowns are inevitable in a marriage. But there are breakdowns that lead to more connection – and there are breakdowns that lead to breakthroughs.” And I couldn’t agree with her more. The power's in your hands, mama-bear.